A prayer request ...
 

My wife of 13 years has left me and filed for a divorce.

About 4 years ago her 40+ year old son from a previous marriage lost his cabinet making business and his home because of the recession.

She asked me if he could move down to Florida with us so he could get back on his feet and either start another business or get a job. I said of course he could. I figured it would take him a year or so to accomplish getting back on his own.

He got a part-time job working as a painter/carpenter, working 20 to 25 hours a week and driving his bosses work van to get to and from work.

In the mean time, instead of looking for a full time job, he spent his off hours smoking cigarettes, drinking, and smoking dope.

He had his first heart attack after about a year and his doctor told him to quit smoking and drinking, and change his diet.

He came home from the hospital, kept his part-time job, went back to smoking cigarettes and dope, and drinking, and about a year later had his second heart attack.

They performed surgery on him and put in a stint. Again the doctor told him to quit smoking and drinking, and change his diet.

He came home from the hospital, kept his part-time job, went back to smoking cigarettes and dope, and drinking.

Last December, he was out in our kitchen one night and we heard a "thunk". We went out there and found him laying on the kitchen floor face up. His eyes were wide open in a "thousand yard stare", no breathing, no pulse, I told the wife to call 911 while I performed CPR on him and brought him back to life before the EMS got there.

They took him to the hospital and performed open heart surgery on him and replacing 3 of the 4 valves. Again the doctor told him to quit smoking and drinking, and change his diet.

He came home from the hospital, kept his part-time job, went back to smoking cigarettes and dope, and drinking.

He never mowed the yard, or did any work around the house, and my wife always defended him by saying how bad his health was. I said if his health was that bad why didn't she stop him from smoking and drinking, she replied she couldn't do anything about that.

On Friday, August 1st. I got off work at 8:00PM and called home to see if she wanted me to pick up something to eat on the way home, to which she advised yes, so I did. I got home about 8:30PM and noticed the house was warm ( Florida in August ) but thought they had just turned up the AC.

After we finished eating around 9:15PM she advised the AC had gone out around 7:00PM, and that I needed to go out to the garage and bring in our back-up window AC and put it into the window till the home AC was fixed.

I asked her why they waited 2 hours and 15 minutes for me to come home from a job I work six days a week at to bring in the window AC when her 40+ year old son was perfectly capable of doing it. She said his health didn't allow him to be able to do that.

We argued, the next day (Saturday) when I came home from work, they had moved out to her other son's home five houses down the street.

I made several attempts to contact her by phone and email offering to go to professional marriage counseling so we can air our differences and save our marriage, to which I received no response.

So since August 1st. I have been alone in the house, taking care of it, paying all the bills, and waiting for her to come home.

Last week I got home and she had left a Marriage Dissolution document on my counter stating she wants the house and alimony and suggests that I sign it to avoid an emotional and financial unpleasant experience.

I have since hired an attorney and we will be entering into litigation.

My world is upside down, it doesn't seem to make sense anymore, I come home to an empty house and wonder how in the heck this happened, what I could have done different, and what's gonna happen to me next. At 61 years of age I never thought that I would be in this situation at this stage of my life.

Any help from the Good Lord would be greatly appreciated.

Sorry for the long rant, but it felt good to get this off of my chest.

Prayers sent my friend. You know how to contact me if you need something..

Prayers sent, Greg. Sometimes the ones you thought were closest to you are the hardest to figure out

Done!

Sarge, I'm sorry for what you're going through. I will be praying for you.

Prayers
 

Prayers from the Harvey family in South Florida.

Prayers sent.

Well, damn, I'm sure sorry to hear that. Prayers sent, stay strong!

Prayers sent, Sir. I'm sorry about your troubles.

Ditto to what Mike said, you are in my prayers and thoughts.


Clyde

Sorry to hear of your troubles. I completely understand what you are going through. Keep your head up. I wouldn't agree to her terms. Get a good attorney.

Sorry to hear it brother. Praying for you.

Prayers sent.

Sorry to hear of your troubles ... prayers headed your way ... hang tough

comming from SD too!

Prayers sent......that you come out on top, with your health.

Sorry to hear, TS. I'll be praying you overcome this. It's pass. Meanwhile what douglas said^^

Prayers are sent.

T.S. hang in there. You have a lot of friends here pulling for you. You know things will get better on the other side of the hump. Stay strong, we are polished to a high luster by the rough spots. Lots of prayers coming your way from those who care, including me.

Prayers sent.

TS, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Prayers are with you
DaFadda

I wish you luck. I'm newly married, and the thought of losing the close relationship I have with my wife really hit me hard. I'm sorry she decided to stick with her brother, who can't even support himself, and abandon the only solid foundation she has. Sounds like he has a disease and is toxic. I wish you luck.

My thoughts and prayers are with you!

Bob

Wish there was something wise I could say here but I have been through similar in the past. As a result, I ended up with a much happier life after the angst and hurt.

Cling to your work, friends and confidence in your self. This will pass and the sun will shine for you again. As far as property, etc. She deserted you, listen to your lawyer and show no mercy. She certainly hasn't.

1 Peter 5:10

And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.

1 Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

Romans 8:28

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Hang in there TS! This sounds terrible but God has a plan. Stay the course. Pray about it.
Franklin

I am so sorry you are going through this, my thoughts and prayers are with you Sir, but I couldn't say anything better to you than what I have quoted, solid words, and solid advice.

-scott

Prayer's to you and your troubles, At this point you just have to stay strong and take care of yourself. The Good Lord is looking out for you

I want to thank you all for the words of comfort and support. You cannot imagine how much those words meant to me.

The lawyer I have hired is from Cordell and Cordell , one of the best law firms in the Tampa area and they represent themselves as being "built on helping men keep their rights & succeed in family court."

They are by no way "cheap", but I felt I needed a law firm that has the man's rights in mind since I have heard the horror stories of what can happen in divorce court.

My attorney is actually a very nice intelligent woman who looked at the document my wife wanted me to sign, advised me it was a "bully" document that they thought I would simply capitulate to and sign my rights away.

Well surprise.

My attorney sent a reply to advise that she was representing me, and that we would not be accepting the initial demand, at the same time she has filed a motion of discovery for my wife's financial report, and assumes they will do the same.

So that is where is stands so far. The initial hurt is less, but there are still times when I feel bad because I have to do this. Its by no means what I wanted to do but, as my attorney advised me, there are two people in this marriage and one doesn't want to be, and the other one can't stop that one from not wanting to be and leaving. It kind of put it all into perspective.

I understand that there will be litigation to go through, so I am preparing myself to be 'firm' when my attorney advises me what I'll need to do to protect myself and my interests, and do whatever she advises me is necessary.

Thanks again for the kind words and your moral support. I GREATLY appreciate it.

Good luck with everything, I wish you all the best.

Best of luck Sir, and continued thoughts and prayers your way!

I sent you my cell number in PM, please don't hesitate to call if/when you need to, whether it be to vent and get some things off your chest, or just to break the monotony in the day/night! I as well as everyone at COTEP are here for you!

All my best!

-scott

My thoughts and Prayers are with you Brother.
I have been down the road you are on before. If you need anything, let me know. PM me.
Keep your spirits up, pray, and have Faith that God will work this out and give you Happiness in the end.
Read The book of JOB. It helped Me through it all.
Steve1