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Old 02-11-2012, 12:50 AM
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Originally Posted by Dave Waits View Post
Maybe I grew up in a different time but, I've been where that man is now. A lot of you know that and , I have all the respect in the world for you but, the statements you made are one of the main reasons we're all starting to see such things. A fifteen year old girl does not command the respect of elders automatically, like any other child she has to earn it by first respecting others, especially her parents. She is not an equal, she is not a sister or brother to him, she is not a partner, she is his daughter. This means that for fifteen years he worried about her, loved her, supported her, fed her, wiped her nose and her rump, basically did everything he could for her.

How does this man get repaid for his devotion? She basically does a Character-assassination of him in a very public venue, tears him down and makes him look like a total Ass. Truthfully, I thought he acted with a lot of RESTRAINT. Had one of mine showed me such disrespect and ridicule, they would still have a hard time assuming a seated position and my youngest is almost 30! Further, if they didn't like it, I would gladly show them the door.

All that touchy-feely get in touch, try to compromise junk is just that. Junk! Oh, it will work fine...if you want a kid that walks all over you. You run that house, not them. They're not your partners, or your comtemporaries, they don't know enough to be. They're there by your good graces and should be thankful they're being cared for. Instead, what you see is a shallow, arrogant, petulent child who thinks she has the right to talk like an adult. Problem is, she's at the point where she'll carry that same attitude into adulthood.

Were I he, the remedy for this is simple, provide her shelter, food,medical care and basic clothing until she reaches 18, then give her the big 10D right in the rump and hope she bounces when she hits the concrete.

I guess you all can tell I'm pretty-much at the end of my patience with snotty-nosed disrespectful brats.
Maybe I came off as a tree hugger, but I am not. I demand respect from my kids and am not one of the spare the rod guys ( ask my wife who disagrees with me). But he has not solved anything by shooting the laptop and posting what he did. There needs to be consequences for sure, her social life just became non-existent for quite a while (months). Her chore level just went up! All these things will force her to accept authority.
Nw I expect also she will be on her own after graduation, either her choice or his, not sure which will come first. But what is going on is just counter productive.
Of course I think you will still consider me too liberal, but we just have different levels of tolerance. n
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