A prayer request ...

[T.S.]

My wife of 13 years has left me and filed for a divorce.

About 4 years ago her 40+ year old son from a previous marriage lost his cabinet making business and his home because of the recession.

She asked me if he could move down to Florida with us so he could get back on his feet and either start another business or get a job. I said of course he could. I figured it would take him a year or so to accomplish getting back on his own.

He got a part-time job working as a painter/carpenter, working 20 to 25 hours a week and driving his bosses work van to get to and from work.

In the mean time, instead of looking for a full time job, he spent his off hours smoking cigarettes, drinking, and smoking dope.

He had his first heart attack after about a year and his doctor told him to quit smoking and drinking, and change his diet.

He came home from the hospital, kept his part-time job, went back to smoking cigarettes and dope, and drinking, and about a year later had his second heart attack.

They performed surgery on him and put in a stint. Again the doctor told him to quit smoking and drinking, and change his diet.

He came home from the hospital, kept his part-time job, went back to smoking cigarettes and dope, and drinking.

Last December, he was out in our kitchen one night and we heard a "thunk". We went out there and found him laying on the kitchen floor face up. His eyes were wide open in a "thousand yard stare", no breathing, no pulse, I told the wife to call 911 while I performed CPR on him and brought him back to life before the EMS got there.

They took him to the hospital and performed open heart surgery on him and replacing 3 of the 4 valves. Again the doctor told him to quit smoking and drinking, and change his diet.

He came home from the hospital, kept his part-time job, went back to smoking cigarettes and dope, and drinking.

He never mowed the yard, or did any work around the house, and my wife always defended him by saying how bad his health was. I said if his health was that bad why didn't she stop him from smoking and drinking, she replied she couldn't do anything about that.

On Friday, August 1st. I got off work at 8:00PM and called home to see if she wanted me to pick up something to eat on the way home, to which she advised yes, so I did. I got home about 8:30PM and noticed the house was warm ( Florida in August ) but thought they had just turned up the AC.

After we finished eating around 9:15PM she advised the AC had gone out around 7:00PM, and that I needed to go out to the garage and bring in our back-up window AC and put it into the window till the home AC was fixed.

I asked her why they waited 2 hours and 15 minutes for me to come home from a job I work six days a week at to bring in the window AC when her 40+ year old son was perfectly capable of doing it. She said his health didn't allow him to be able to do that.

We argued, the next day (Saturday) when I came home from work, they had moved out to her other son's home five houses down the street.

I made several attempts to contact her by phone and email offering to go to professional marriage counseling so we can air our differences and save our marriage, to which I received no response.

So since August 1st. I have been alone in the house, taking care of it, paying all the bills, and waiting for her to come home.

Last week I got home and she had left a Marriage Dissolution document on my counter stating she wants the house and alimony and suggests that I sign it to avoid an emotional and financial unpleasant experience.

I have since hired an attorney and we will be entering into litigation.

My world is upside down, it doesn't seem to make sense anymore, I come home to an empty house and wonder how in the heck this happened, what I could have done different, and what's gonna happen to me next. At 61 years of age I never thought that I would be in this situation at this stage of my life.

Any help from the Good Lord would be greatly appreciated.

Sorry for the long rant, but it felt good to get this off of my chest.